Friday, August 7, 2015

Dating Longer Before Marriage

In her recent bestselling book titled "Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar," author and relationship expert Hellen Chen revealed that 85 percent of dating end in breakups and a longer dating time does not always mean a more stable and happier marriage.

For over a decade, Chen has played the role of matchmaker and counselor to numerous singles and couples. She has conducted seminars and workshops around the world on how to have a satisfying and happy marriage.

"Dating longer does not equal to improving the chance of a happy marriage. I have seen couples divorcing even though they have dated each other for 6 to 8 years before the marriage." said Chen.

Chen has seen singles delaying marital commitment in order to "make sure" the person in front is the right one.

"Yet, like a self-fulfilling prophecy, the unwillingness to fully commit opens the door for an eventual breakup. Most people who only date and don't commit will end up separating with their partners." said Chen.

Jonathan K, a sales executive in the insurance field, shared his first-hand experience of having wasted time to "check out" a partner.

"I thought the smart way to go about selecting a partner is to date first for a few years. But after 3 girlfriends over a period of 10 years, I was exhausted emotionally and financially and ready to give up my dream of having my own family." said Jonathan.

Jonathan got smarter and applying the concept taught at one of Chen's workshop, he found his current wife shortly and is now a father of two children.

"The feeling of settling down in marriage is such a world of difference than the surreal relationship of dating with no goal in mind. If you want the real thing, don't waste your time dating someone who does not share your idea of commitment." said Jonathan.

At a workshop given in Los Angeles, Chen also pointed out that despite more and more dating tools available to really get to "know" a person's background and profile, the rate of divorce is increasing globally nevertheless.

"People change. You may think you know someone very well but 5 or 10 years later, they change their habits and behavior. Rather than focusing on who the right partner may be, why not work on learning how to manage changes and thus make a marriage lasting and satisfying anyway?" Chen shared.

Hellen Chen will be holding a Love Seminar in Los Angeles on October 24th and 25th.

At this event, Chen shares the biggest secret to make a marriage lasting and deep. And she will talk about how to how to use the strength of a relationship to increase career, prosperity and even health.

She invites single adults, whether divorced, separated or never married, who are looking for love, as well as those who are married and would like to learn how to manage their relationships to attend the popular event.

For more information, please visit the event page for singles: and for married individuals


Chen's works in family, marriage and personal developments are featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. She has been a guest on independent and network radio and TV shows on FOX, CBS, NBC and ABC.

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